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My girls are probably different from the rest. We don’t talk much about brands, make-ups, dresses. (unless our gay friends are there). But naturally, we just talk about anything. One night, we came up with one topic that probably most women can relate to. MOVING ON.

I remembered a friend said, she’s moved on, she’s cool with their past and that she’s no longer affected. Blah blah blah. But really, when can we really say that we’ve totally moved on?

A friend shared, it’s when you don’t care about him anymore that any news won’t affect you at all. And another one shared (melodramatic) it’s when you’ve totally faced the pain and accepted that things didn’t and won’t work out for the two of you. Is it safe to say that there are different ways to say if we’ve moved on or not? It could be someone no longer hurting or someone who’s still hurting but just deals with the pain until she gets used to it or hopefully until the pain goes away. Then it lead me to ask another one, When will you be able to move on? or how can you move on? (it’s more of me asking myself but i just have to voice it out to know their ideas on it.)

Then the two of them answered in chorus “CLOSURE”. wow! did they practice it?

I’ve had my own share of stories which ended badly. Woudn’t pass for a love story. I’ve heard of the word “closure” and infact blamed it for my previous heartaches. I thought of needing it and those bunch of idiots never cared to sit with me and give me the ”closure” that I need. But now, I’ve forgotten the pain from those previous relationships.. and guess what, no one from those idiots cared to talk to me in order to forget the sad memories with them.

I am no expert of this, and let me remind you, this is just my own point of view,.. (scoring) CLOSURE doesn’t exist.

Come to think of it, you break up with someone (or that someone breaks up with you), with or without wonderful words it is still a goodbye. It would still hurt. Even if you would sit with that special someone the whole day or whole week, questions will never end. From “is it me?” “don’t you love me anymore?” to “what went wrong?”. And sadly, answers will never be enough. Lucky you’d be if you get an honest answer (but who get’s to distinguish the honest one from not?).

My point is, you just have to get that so-called closure by yourself. Imagine this, you and your ex-lover sitting. He starts saying goodbye and then you pop the question “why?” Can you imagine him saying this, “it’s not you, it’s me.” or worse “you’re not good enough for me” or “you no longer make me happy”. What would it lead you? self-pity? regrets? Or try to think of the most perfect response you want to hear. And then ask yourself, will any answers be enough? Will you ever be contented after hearing his reasons? For me, NO. Because no words can ease a goodbye - a heartache.

So for those wonderful women out there who are still hurting coz they were left hanging, you have the option to continue that way (and by that i mean drowning yourself in pain) or you can start picking up the pieces and move on. Close the chapter and learn from it. You don’t need him inorder to move forward. Coz seriously, talking to him could just open a can of worms and end up hurting you more. If you really believe in closure, have that closure by yourself. It will take a while for pain to go away. But as long as you’re willing to move each day, the pain will go away. Yes, the pain will go away and you’ll be whole again. Love has no exact time and it needs lots of years to know how love and pain works. And with that each day, the tears you’ve cried will turn into smiles (ten-folds of happiness) with the one who’s worth all the tears but will not make you cry.

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A security analyst who has worked in counter-terrorism with the British Army and Scotland Yard, Charles Shoebridge, says the officers involved in Manila’s bus siege showed great courage - but they were not properly trained or equipped for the task.

Here are 10 areas where, in his view, they…

General provisions:

A – Whereas the saying “all is fair in love and war” is absolutely correct;

B – Whereas for war we have the Geneva Convention, approved on 22 August 1864, which provides for those wounded in the battle field, but until now no convention has been signed concerning those wounded in love, who are far greater in number;

It is hereby decreed that:

Article 1 – All lovers, of any sex, are alerted that love, besides being a blessing, is also something extremely dangerous, unpredictable and capable of causing serious damage. Consequently, anyone planning to love should be aware that they are exposing their body and soul to various types of wounds, and that they shall not be able to blame their partner at any moment, since the risk is the same for both.

Article 2 – Once struck by a stray arrow fired from Cupid’s bow, they should immediately ask the archer to shoot the same arrow in the opposite direction, so as not to be afflicted by the wound known as “unrequited love”. Should Cupid refuse to perform such a gesture, the Convention now being promulgated demands that the wounded partner remove the arrow from his/her heart and throw it in the garbage. In order to guarantee this, those concerned should avoid telephone calls, messages over the Internet, sending flowers that are always returned, or each and every means of seduction, since these may yield results in the short run but always end up wrong after a while. The Convention decrees that the wounded person should immediately seek the company of other people and try to control the obsessive thought: “this person is worth fighting for”.

Article 3 – If the wound is caused by third parties, in other words if the loved one has become interested in someone not in the script previously drafted, vengeance is expressly forbidden. In this case, it is allowed to use tears until the eyes dry up, to punch walls or pillows, to insult the ex-partner in conversations with friends, to allege his/her complete lack of taste, but without offending their honor. The Convention determines that the rule contained in Article 2 be applied: seek the company of other persons, preferably in places different from those frequented by the other party.

Article 4 – In the case of light wounds, herein classified as small treacheries, fulminating passions that are short-lived, passing sexual disinterest, the medicine called Pardon should be applied generously and quickly. Once this medicine has been applied, one should never reconsider one’s decision, not even once, and the theme must be completely forgotten and never used as an argument in a fight or in a moment of hatred.

Article 5 – In all definitive wounds, also known as “breaking up”, the only medicine capable of having an effect is called Time. It is no use seeking consolation from fortune-tellers (who always say that the lost lover will return), romantic books (which always have a happy ending), soap-operas on the television or other such things. One should suffer intensely, completely avoiding drugs, tranquilizers and praying to saints. Alcohol is only tolerated if kept to a maximum of two glasses of wine a day.

Final determination: 
Those wounded in love, unlike those wounded in armed conflict, are neither victims nor torturers. They chose something that is part of life, and so they have to accept both the agony and the ecstasy of their choice.
And those who have never been wounded in love will never be able to say: “I have lived”. Because they haven’t.